Despite all the cautionary tales regarding the dangers of office romance, countless employees wind up in relationships with co-workers every year.
And as you might expect when two people try to maintain both a business and emotional relationship – while spending virtually every waking hour together keeping the whole thing a secret – workplace dating often ends in tears.
People inherently understand and are attracted to others who “understand” that part of their life.”Another draw of getting involved with a co-worker is the excitement coupled with the “safety” of dating somebody you’ve already gotten to know.
Gregg Ward, Workplace Consultant puts it this way: “There are a lot of “creeps” (both men and women) out there in the world; dating and falling for someone you work with is a lot easier/safer than trying to meet someone in clubs, bars, etc.
Depending on the circumstances, failing to do so could cost you a raise, a promotion – or even your job.
Of course, warnings about the dangers of workplace dating and office hookups are nothing new.
"Older generations saw work as a separate place," says Renee Cowan, Ph.
D., an assistant professor at the University of Texas at San Antonio who studies office relationships.Her findings indicated that most respondents do not mind seeing a romance develop between two unmarried colleagues.They do object to relationships in which one or both coworkers are married to someone else, however, and they also object when the relationship is between a supervisor and his or her direct report. Poe, an HR freelance writer, also found in a Society for Human Resource Management white paper that adulterous affairs were a problem in some workplaces.A decade ago their romance would have been expressly forbidden.(You know the old saying about not, um, where you eat.) But as more Americans postpone marriage until their careers are established—and as hours get longer, with smartphones blurring work and play—it makes sense that attitudes are changing.Traditional places like church, family events, and leisure time activities don’t present the same pool of candidates as they did in earlier times.