We weren't on the same life path, didn't want the same things, and overall weren't a good match anymore.
Three quarters of a year later, I'm now dating someone I go to school with.
My time is valuable but thinking that my time is more valuable than my partner’s is a potential fuel for a fights.
Mistake #2 – Allowing miscommunication (especially via text) to cause fights As a medical student, it’s not practical to see my partner or go on dates multiple times a week.
So for a bit of my own background: I dated a guy for 5.5 years, with 3.5 of those years spent with him in medical school.
We went through the whole process of applying, starting, doing the pre-clinical years, and all of his third year together.
During the first two years, you are constantly studying and making sure you are passing (and hopefully acing! Medical school is not only time-consuming; it is mind-consuming.
Then during the third year, you are in the hospital or clinic every day and THEN you come home and study.
I also frequently think because I am a medical student, my time is more valuable than others, especially those without demanding jobs.
At the end of the day, I know that’s my pride talking and I need to let go of that superiority complex.
There’s nothing wrong with going for someone from a different year, but how does their grade or level of training in comparison with yours affect the appropriateness of the relationship?
In a workplace hierarchy there will be a difference in power between individuals.
At the beginning of his fourth year, I moved four states away so that I could start medical school.