I don’t want to date someone, grow attached to her and then feel hurt when the parenthood issue sends us off on our separate ways.The option of least risk would be to filter my searches to only return profiles of women who are sure they don’t want to be parents.
I feel that kids are an anchor, financially and freedom-wise.
I believe one could do what they want, when they want, without having to find a babysitter, for example. The people who don't want kids in or around my area (and surrounding cities, even as far as LA) are very small compared to the girls who want kids.
Maybe women who may have listed a less than accurate preference about having children to not scare people away?
Childfree adults are a minority, and this leads to unique dating issues.
When we broke up and I entered the NYC dating carousel, I was 30 and had no idea what I was doing.
But, contrary to all the horror stories I'd heard, I had fun.
She also talked about meeting men who at first said they didn’t want kids, but as the relationship progressed began to speak of their desire to be a father. I encouraged her to hang in there, and even to consider relocating to a more urban area where there would be more childfree men in the dating pool.
This was well before the stats came out listing the top childfree cities: San Francisco, Seattle, and Washington DC have the fewest number of homes with children in the US.
After a few dates with a new man, the inevitable would happen: "You will be such a great mom."Baffled, I'd then be left with my gabbling mouth (I'm not talented with the pithy response).