We understand narcissism well enough to know that if you are dating a narcissist or someone with narcissistic tendencies, you will very likely feel unsupported and put down.
Your partner will not empathize with you and will not be there for you.
When you're in love with someone, it can be tricky to tease these characteristics out.
(You want to they love you back and change is scary, so why come up with reasons to leave?
You've probably heard by now, that these two personality types are drawn to each other, but might have wondered why this is true.
I'll try to demystify this mutual attraction, and provide a little insight (as usual) along the way.
For simplicity's sake, I discuss female Borderlines and male Narcissists, but these roles can certainly be reversed, and may include same-sex unions--in fact, the prevalence of borderline pathology could be considered Relationship issues are universal--and homosexual men and women struggle with many of the same concerns heterosexual couples do, because of their core disturbances throughout childhood.
Frankly, I have never met a lesbian who didn't have major issues with her mother--but that's another article.people who contact me for help, are already aware of a distinct pattern of attraction in their life.While the nature of those early difficulties were alike, they've played out in different ways for each of you~ but the scars from that time remain, unless there's been some serious core-focused intervention.Both Borderlines and Narcissists struggle with what I've coined, Bottomless Pit Syndrome or BPS.It can be hard to recognize a narcissist — they are so charming and convincing!They have spent their whole lives honing their skills. You are mesmerized when he gazes into your eyes…A relationship with a narcissist begins well.