But beyond that, how do you know whom God wants you to marry? How can you know God’s will on this important decision?
” Startled by the sound, the woman looked up and said, “Just anybody, Lord! But, if God wants you to be married, He doesn’t want you married to just anybody.
We all know that the bottom line is that Christians must only marry Christians. What should be your motives if you’re seeking a mate?
A story is told of a woman approaching 35 without a husband.
Late one afternoon she went into the woods to pray for a husband.
Laying down life means: Death to self Serving Humble Yourself. Romans 12:3 Marriage Problems Family Problems Gender Problems One is thinking more highly of Race Problems themselves than the other. The most intelligent being of the universe created the idea of humbling Himself at the Cross! We don't believe truth = love, but Christianity says that if you don't do truth, you don't love. Choosing highest and best, means doing what is loving for the other person. Romantic Love There is no more appropriate place to talk about sex than in the presence of the one who created it. You don't have to avoid things because something might happen; but avoid it when something may become "unloving". Physical attraction ≠ lust Use it lovingly, not selfishly.
The truth -- Love defined by truth Choosing the highest and best Honouring, according to actual value. "Love isn't a feeling, because I'd be in love with the Dodge Viper" Love is doing what is appropriate for the other person. We can't live in community like we live individually. People have value With knowledge of value brings responsibility E.g., if you have a ,000 note on the ground, and a cockroach coming near a baby on the ground... We think forgiveness means "I'm over it now" but it doesn't. Ephesians God removed hostility/enmity between different groups. We believe that the female body parts are bad/evil We are living in a dichotomous world: Pure Holy Goodness Presence of God Sex God thought Body Parts of all of Hormones this. Unique is only in the bounds of God's design We have unique attraction Attraction must be within God's boundaries for relationships Love God, Love neighbour as yourself. Loving opposite sex is normal function You aren't in danger if you get close to female friends Closeness ≠ Adultery Just because there is an attraction doesn't make a link between that and a truth violation. We all have a tendency towards children, so Q: are we meant to have sex with them? Logical, Loving Limits1 Corinthians ; -- Logical, wise, mind, intelligent limits.
If you're in humility and I'm in humility, it is impossible for us to not get along. We need to take this back, because our God is the one who thought it all up. Most of what you like about people Pressed in our culture to value physical more than we should. Romantic -- In love, liking someone "like that"Non-Romantic -- Brotherly Love -- Platonic Romantic Singular in nature Dangerous belief that there is only one person you can fall in love with. If I don't think I can be in love with more than one person, I will feel like " You just can't be THIS in love" If you pray that "Thy will be done"... "You don't have to fall out of love" You can choose to start loving the right person.
Church Problems The solution is so simple, it makes you mad!!! Arrogant pride -- thinking highly of yourself Inferiority -- thinking lowly of yourself "It's just STINKIN' pride" "Think with Sober Judgement" Humility -- Correct assessment of self The truth. The smartest thing to happen in history was the Cross. Truth is not defined by love, love is defined by what is true. Satan -- Angel -- Neutered 100% God created sexuality for humans, not satan or angels, so sex isn't sinful in the right context. Attraction Lust Gift Acknowledgement that something is pleasant Sin Selfish choice to desire, want, need, focus on, use to gratify. If I accept that I can fall in love with more than one person, I will be cautious. "Analysis: There are younger and single people out there that are listening.
He was writing to a church in a pagan, sex-saturated society.
Many in that culture thought that satisfaction in life comes through gratifying sensual lusts.
But before anyone can get married they have to go through the process of getting to know a person and pursuing love for them (at least if you practice the Western tradition of pursuing marriage).