What I uncovered were some harsh realities about online dating that no one ever talks about.
After the jump, some things you might not have known… Most of the member profiles you’ll find are inactive.
Dating apps: Can't live with them, can't live without them.
But seriously, sometimes things go so wrong—like endless date with a cringe-worthy guy wrong—that you can't help but wonder why you're on the app in the first place.
A few years ago, OKCupid calculated that 96.25% of e Harmony’s profiles are inactive, using numbers provided by e Harmony themselves.
Match was only marginally better, coming in at 93.1% inactive.
As Aziz Ansari says in one of his Netflix stand-up specials, couples’ origin stories are now as complex as searching “Jewish” and your Zip code on At the same time, interesting origin stories are having a moment everywhere else.
It’s not enough for a restaurant to have primo prime rib; it’s got to have a killer backstory that explains the struggles its owners faced and the exact farms from which they sourced their products.
You’d be hard-pressed to hear a start-up pitch without an aching or humorous backstory about why the founder’s firing or sudden skin infection became the basis for a one-in-a-million venture idea.
Good origin stories still happen, they’re just rarer.
So the next time you go on a seriously awful date you'll know that you're not alone.
We're right here with you."I went on a four-hour (FOUR-HOUR) Tinder date with a match who proceeded to walk me through the intricacies of Excel. Hours." -Jo, 22"I met a guy on Tinder and drove to a different state just to meet up with him.
This means that 19 out of 20 profiles on these sites are either past members who aren’t around anymore, or non-paying members who can’t respond.