The origins of sexual racism can be explained by looking at its history, especially in the USA, where the abolition of slavery and the Reconstruction Era had significant impacts on interracial mixing.
Attitudes towards interracial relationships, and indeed marriage, have increased in positivity in the last 50 years.
As a result, there are often times when you don’t recognize when your behavior towards people of color veers into problematic territory. But you may want to take my words to heart if you’d like to live up to those progressive memes you share on Facebook all the time.
That’s fine and to make you feel more heard I’ll even repeat the most common point used to counter my argument ― “but people like what they like.
Can’t change that.” I’ve heard that excuse, or some iteration of it, used many times.
The questions raised by the preference across the board for whiteness are clearly far too complicated to be fully unpacked in under an hour. On Twitter, for example, I watched several people dismissing the results by making the case that living in the UK, where the vast majority of the population are white, it’s not unusual that white dominates on dating apps.
After all, to cut out potential white partners would be to cut out almost 80 per cent of the people out there.
As a professional matchmaker, I’ve interviewed over 1,000 singles, and in the past two and a half years, I’ve made around 2,500 matches.
This means I have been #blessed to hear a lot of this nonsense, and honestly, most of it doesn’t faze me. I meant monumental and indicative of an entrenched and deeply troubling societal prejudice that we have been unable to overcome throughout the course of human history.Regardless of if you’re actually on dating apps or not, social media presents you with a world of choice where you can cherry pick your networks and get more of what you want.Now more than ever we feel like we know what we like, and can get it at the click of a button.“White women prefer white men to the exclusion of everyone else — and Asian and Hispanic women prefer them even more exclusively.” “Men don’t write black women back.” Their gay data reads the same: “Blacks get fewer responses.” Have you closed your browser and crawled into a hole to live out the rest of your days unencumbered by society and its bullshit yet?As is protocol with sweeping epidemics, people should start by honestly talking about the problem (see: for suggestions).But what if this is this a bad thing - and is ultimately revealing racist tendencies?