It is wise for dating couples to take it slowly for several reasons.
First, it gives each person in the relationship room to breathe and to enjoy dating without the pressure of getting too serious too quickly.
But sometimes, if you fast-track through the early relationship stages, things in a relationship can feel stale real fast.
You’ve most likely had the experience of dating a guy for a month or two, being really into him, and then one day your feelings have just evaporated and it’s like kissing your brother.
Go slow this time and avoid the dreaded almost-relationship. Unfortunately, in today’s hook-up culture, just because we’re dating someone it doesn’t mean we’re headed for a serious commitment.
You might be waiting to call someone your boyfriend without knowing they have zero interest in that label.
If you take things slow, you can take care of yourself and not get your hopes up. This goes for sleeping together, putting a label on it – any aspect of a new romance.
A handful of gentlemen took to Reddit to reveal exactly what they mean when they tell someone they're dating they just want to “take things slow”: I met a girl and I really liked her, but my previous relationship had escalated too quickly, gotten serious too quickly, and I realized that what I thought were real feelings were actually more like a short-term infatuation. She took our relationship fast from the get-go and acts surprise when I start to get invested. She legit did a 180° just because she thought I was more invested than her in our relationship and hasn't talked to me about it yet.– /u/genesis1v9It could be of a variety of honest reasons.
So the next time I met a girl that I really liked, I decided I was going to take things a bit slower. One, remember people have different life experiences, so just because you haven't experienced anything to make you want to take things slow, doesn't mean other people haven't.
While there’s nothing more fun and exciting than starting a new romance, there’s a lot to be said for slowing things down and letting them develop naturally instead of being in such a rush. Getting carried away might blind you to some glaring red flags.
Let’s face it: our hormones often make the decision for us about who we should be with. If you’re in the market for a real relationship, these things matter.
The same thing can happen in a dating relationship.