Yet military life is tough and demanding for loved ones as well as those who enlist.
Suddenly, you’re part of a community that has its own culture and your time becomes both more and less valuable, depending on the circumstances.
You can go to extravagant balls, take part in milestone celebrations, and move to places you never thought you’d live.
Military members are broken down in boot camp and built up to not just be altered men and women, but trusted, forever soldiers.
The training and the missions and the executions of both are so deeply engrained in our service men and women that, I swear, the marrow in their bones is altered.
Make plans for how you will celebrate holidays without them and enjoy them. 4) If you are not supportive or interested in the military as a family life choice do not date or marry someone who loves their career in the military.
3) If you are someone who needs to live close to your family, do not date or marry someone in the military. Do not anticipate that you will get them to leave it and do something else.
If I met an interested man who happened to be an active member of the military, that wouldn’t necessarily exclude him from consideration, but I would be hesitant to get involved on any sort of serious level. He served in the United States Navy for six years but had been out of the military for a significant amount of time before I sat next to him in on what would be our last first date.
I knew I wouldn’t have to deal with devastatingly long deployments at sea or constant relocation so his military service wasn’t a potential hinderance, but a celebrated past accomplishment.
He insists on occupying the spot that allows him to survey who is coming and going into the restaurant or bar or whatever establishment we might be visiting.