More importantly, don't dismiss AA out of hand after one session just because it's 'weird'. Give it a chance and then, if it still doesn't do anything for you, move onto a different method of quitting drink.
What can make the first meeting less strange is to know what to expect at a meeting, so at least you're not surprised by the format.
Regardless of where our loved ones are in their journey, it’s important that we take stock too. We experienced the progressive loss of the person we loved.
Clinicians refer to those impacted by another person’s addictions as “affected others.” This is a hopelessly generic and sterile bit of language that unwittingly minimizes the experience of we who bear witness to the spiral of addiction. In the throes of addiction our partners became progressively unavailable to us.
Having a partner or spouse enter into recovery from addiction is one of the biggest changes a couple can go through.
For the non-addicted it generally involves a mixture of relief, hope, a lot of conflicting emotions .
Three martinis are never enough." The problem with making resolutions is that you're sober when you make the first one, have had a drink when you make the second one, and so on. Unemployed, unmarried, but still drinking--or, more likely, dead.
If I could, I would continue until I decided I was finished, which was usually some hours later. I've known two heavy drinkers who claimed they never had hangovers. Without hangovers, it is possible that I would still be drinking.
We expect that they’ll come to see what we’ve seen all along – that their drug of choice was ruining not only their lives but ours as well.
Many of us became so involved in their needs that we lost sight of our own.
While some people can easily relate to and embrace the fact that everyone has a past, others can find it hard to reconcile the two.